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Today was a first. I have never proofread a ketubah for a divorcee before. Part of the standard formula for a ketubah includes the "status" of the bride after her name.* This basically affects how much money she is worth in case the marriage dissolves.

As I said, this was my first divorcee. Lots of first time weddings, who get "virgin" no matter what actually has gone on behind closed doors, and at least one convert, but no divorcees. So I didn't know what the real Aramaic word was. "The artist knows," I hear you cry. Yes, I'm sure the artist knows, but part of my job is to give the piece one final proofread, just in case the artist's proofreader missed something. I'd hate to have someone pay a lot of money for a piece that their rabbi proceeds to invalidate. And thus the internet search began. I found [ profile] hatam_soferet's online text which had it spelled one way, and a transliteration in an article which indicated it was spelled another. In the end I called the rabbi, who approved the spelling that was in the ketubah.

The practical upshot is that I should probably learn more Aramaic so that I can hedge these questions off at the pass. Or I need my very own pet Aramaic expert.**

/ubergeek mode

*I.E. is she a virgin, a divorcee, a widow, a childless widow who DIDN'T marry her brother-in-law...
**[ profile] hatam_soferet's words, not mine
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This is probably the beginnings of a book proposal. One day I will write this book. You can trust that my own wedding plans will not be accompanied by any of this insanity.

  1. If you want to have an art ketubah, please understand that it's going to take time. Once that level of understanding has been reached, please remember to build in the necessary time - anywhere from 4 to 8 weeks (minimum). If the artist or store requires that your officiant (rabbi, cantor, best friend) approve the information before the order can be processed, please make sure they stay on top of it. "Hunting down your rabbi to get him to approve the information before it is too late to be submitted" was never in my job description.

  2. If you need modifications to a lithographed ketubah, please understand that they will be made at the artist's discretion. They know their design better than you do. If they tell you (through me) that a modification can't be made, please listen to them (and me). You went to them because you like their design. Please trust them.

  3. Corollary to #2 - At a certain point, the modifications you may want begin to infringe upon the actual design. If you want that much control, commission an original design. You'll get exactly what you want. However, you will pay for it.

  4. When ordering benchers from a brick and mortar store, please do not mention how it is "so much cheaper online." If it's that much cheaper, buy online. Please remember that you will get what you pay for.

  5. Feel free to order any personalized items (kippot, benchers, ketubah, etc.) well in advance. It's always nice to cross another item off of your list. However, please understand that any of these items are processed by date of affair, and not by date submitted. If you must have the items by a specific date that is more than 2 weeks before the affair, let me know. I will do my best.

  6. I told you they'd be in on time. Calling every day starting a month before the affair will NOT get them in any faster.

These are just a few pieces of advice I wish to pass along to those planning weddings. Be nice to your local Judaica Store clerk. She probably has at least 2 other weddings besides yours that she is worrying about. And when you thank her, it makes her day.


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